Making a horse listen
Good evening to all Toastmasters and Guests.
You can take a horse to a pond but you cannot make it drink water is an old proverb. Don't you feel sometimes that your horse does not listen? Listening is very important but what is more essential is how anything is communicated. Not only words but it is very important to have proper emotion on face so that your thoughts can be conveyed properly. In our daily life too we come across the all such emotions and we come across HORSE too who does not listen to us. The horse in our life is:-
H - Home
O - Office
R - Relatives
S - Seniors, subordinate and spouse
E - External word.
To communicate with horse, we have to use all emotions so that we can make sure that whatever we communicate is understood so that HORSE drinks water.
How many of you heard of Bharat Muni. And how many of you are aware that he has written Natyashastra which includes "Ras theory" in this he talks of nine emotions.
Let us visualise a situation. I have just come back from office and I enter my home, my wife asks me "Hi, how was your day" In response to this question, the answer can be different depending on how the day was:-
1. Shringar ras - Love, beauty, sentiments. THE DAY HAS STARTED NOW MY DEAR
2. Karuna ras - sadness or sorrow. MY BOSS FIRED ME.
3. Vir ras - courage or heroism. TODAY, I GAVE IT BACK TO MY BOSS
4. Bhaya ras - Fear, nervousness or anxiety. THOUGH, I GAVE IT BACK TO MY BOSS BUT I FEAR HE WILL SPOIL MY APPRAISALS NOW. WHAT DO I DO???
5. Vibhatsa ras - disgust, hate or depression. MY BOSS HAS SPOLIT MY APPRAISAL AND HE HAS PROMOTED ANOTHER PERSON INSTEAD OF ME.
6. Raudra ras - anger, violence. MY BOSS HAS CHALLENGED ME, HE DOES NOT KNOW HE HAS INVITED MY WRATH.
7. Shant ras - calmness, peace or relaxation. A PERSON CAN DEFEAT ME BUT NOT MY SPIRITS
8. Adbhut ras - wonder, curious or astonished. MY BOSS CALLED ME AND ASKED ME FOR A CUP OF COFFEE IN HIS CABIN.
9. Hasya ras - humor, laughter, joy. YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENED TODAY, MY BOSS SLIPPED ON A BANANA PEAL.
Let's see in a scenario at home how many emotions you can find.
Trying Tring - Sir, are you Aarav's father.
Yes, I am Aarav's father here.
Sir, are you Vinay Srivastava
Of course, if I am Aarav's father, I am Vinay Srivastava only; he does not have 2 - 3 fathers.
Sir, please come to school immediately.
What happened ????
Sir please come to school urgently. I think it is very urgent.
What do you mean you think, will you please tell me what exactly has happened.
Sir, at this time all I can say is that you come here fast.
With all kinds of thoughts in my mind I just to my sons school.
Oye careful man, will you kill us under your car.
My son is in class 4D, her teacher has called me urgently, Please let me go inside.
Saar please go and wait there.
(After ten minutes of agonizing wait), her teacher comes to the reception area and declares
Sir, Your son is very depressed.
Depressed??? Why? How?? When??? I mean how can you say that?
Sirrrr, he was very sad today. His face was down and when I asked him why he was not writing. He looked up and told me that he is missing his grandfather.
His Grandfather, I said!!!
Yes Sir, please don't worry I have informed other teachers and they have also exempted him from doing any work.
Aarav was telling all of us that he used to play a lot with his grandfather and he used to buy him ice creams and toffees and he is missing all of it. Sirrrr, please take care of him.
What are you taking of????
Sir, I know I know and I can understand it must be a shock for you. But it happens with kids and us as teachers and parents have to take care and please don't worry, we are with you and we are all sure that he will come out of it.
Teachers - My father passed away (teary eyed) 26 years ago and even my wife has not seen him. So, how can he possibly be doing all these things with him?
So, we see that in life we have many types of experiences and we have to deal with each one with a different emotion and make sure that our Horse understands and drinks Water.
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